Goals vs. Rewards
Addiction is flooded with reward seeking behaviour.
“I hurt, I am lonely, I am tired.”
“I deserve, I need a reward now.”
The reward is fleeting, a shot of dopamine that momentarily satisfies a perceived need for pleasure as an antidote to pain or discontentment. Next triggering will require another quick dose of dopamine and the cycle continues.
Long term goals, something that you are working toward. Every small step toward the goal releases a continuous slow drip of dopamine and helps instil an overall sense that life is good. Goals also provide a reason to keep on struggling through life as good goals provide a purpose and help us see that our lives have meaning and value.
Pray, meditate, think, what is something that I want to achieve?
What steps lie between me, here and now, and that goal being achieved.
Start walking in that direction.
Consider – where do I want to be in 5 years?
Start walking toward that goal:
– Plan the steps you will need to take.
– Seek help planning if necessary.
– Start walking out those steps, small steps.
– Give yourself grace if you stumble, get back up and keep going.