Shame

I don’t even want to talk about this……

Are you the same person:

  • When you are alone at night?
  • When you are at work?
  • When you are with friends?
  • When you are with family?

Do you BEHAVE ?

It’s healthy and reasonable to alter our behaviour, a little, to fit in, but how dramatic is that change? Are you a chameleon? 

Do you need to get lit (inebriated) to really be “yourself”? To relax?

Do you behave, become someone else, in order to hide your self-doubt, your shame?

What is shame?

It isn’t the sense that your behaviour is the problem, but that you are the problem.

My eyes were opened, when I realized that people, starting with my mother, used shame to control me. But the shame did more than that, it hurt me. The pain increased when I realized that I also inflicted shame on others.

Maybe people do want to know the real you. Maybe it’s time to crawl out from under this rock.

Jesus knows you. He knows everything about you and everything you have done. He knows. He was a witness to those things that you did that you regret, those things that bring you shame. BUT Jesus reaches out to you, longing for you to accept His forgiveness, love and intimacy. He has already made the first move and He longs for you to respond, to simply accept His forgiveness and get relief from shame.

Start Here:

Pray! (This is a big prayer, because this is a big burden.)

Jesus, I confess that I have done things I regret.

Jesus, I forgive those who have hurt me and shamed me (list anyone who comes to mind).
I forgive and release them. I renounce my assumed right to judge them and I hand them to you, Jesus, for judgement. 
As I forgive and release them, I cut any ungodly soul ties that exist between us. And I sever their influence on me. 
In this moment, I release them and any shame binds that were formed between us. And I send them blessings instead.

Jesus, I confess that I have hurt and shamed people (name anyone who comes to mind).
Jesus, please forgive me for hurting these people. 
In this moment, I release them and any shame binds that were formed between us.
I cut any ungodly soul ties that exist between us. And I sever their influence on us.
I send blessings to them instead. And I pray that they would be healed and blessed in your name, Jesus. 

Jesus, I confess that I have indulged in behaviours that have brought me shame (list anything that comes to mind).
Jesus, please forgive me for these things. 
Jesus, I repent. I turn from these behaviours, and I choose to follow you and your ways instead. 
Jesus, please lead me by your still waters, and deliver me from future temptations. Walk with me and guide me, so that I can avoid being overwhelmed by temptation in the future.

Father God, in Jesus’ name, and in His authority, I speak to any spirits of shame that have attached themselves to me. I command them to leave me now. I am a child of Christ, and I have given my life to Jesus. And as a son of the King these harassing spirits have NO authority over me. I command them to be silent, to be bound and forever removed from me as far as the east is from the west, never to return.  

Holy Spirit come and fill the places in my body, in my soul, in my mind and in my spirit, where shame dwelt. Clean out all the effects and pollution of shame, and fill these places with your love and healing. 

Jesus cleanse and renew my heart and mind.

Jesus, I am tired of living a lie and residing in the darkness of shame. Through these confessions, Lord, please lead me to new life. And please open the door to my new destiny. Allow me the courage to be truly alive and open and intimate with others.

Thanks you Jesus.